I got to use one of my favorite sayings yesterday; I got to remind a loved one that “what other people think about you is none of your business.” This phrase really opened my eyes to a whole new world once I discovered it, when someone blessed me with this little reminder. I remember literally spending weeks in states of depression because I thought that someone, someone I barely knew, was mad at me. There was no reason for this person to actually be upset with me. It was more likely a case of their having a bad day and not responding in the manner that I had grown accustomed. One of my faults is the need to have people like me. While this may seem to be an admirable quality on the surface, it can actually be emotionally crippling because, while I do want to be a kind and loving person, I am powerless over other peoples wants, needs and feelings, and it is really none of my business. If a person is actually upset with me, then it is their responsibility to let me know so that we can sort it out. I do not want to carry the guilt of actually hurting others, and I must make amends for the wrongs that I do; but I no longer need to attach myself to the personal growth of others, I have my own growing to do.
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