Sometimes “shoulds” get in the way of my life.  My mind tells me what I should think.  That is my mind, thinking, about what it should think.  That gets a little crazy.  How about how I should feel?  The question is always, how do I feel about this, that or the other.  The answer is not in the question.  How I should feel is a statement, it instigates a pre-approved answer.  It tells me who I should and should not be, based on concepts, usually belonging to others. If my behavior is morally acceptable to me, it is because I have a conscience, that small still voice within that lets me know if I am off in any way, or right on; not because I have bought in to someone else’s opinion.  I often value the opinion of others, but it is in letting their opinions become my “should” that leads to confusion as to whose life am I really leading, mine or yours.

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